Have you ever known what you want or need to do, and you’ve taken all the necessary steps to actually make your decision, but some internal or external factors limit the scope of your ability to follow through? This phenomenon is related to a lack of autonomy. In my last post , I discussed the role of agency in our overall wellbeing. Whereas agency speaks to the capacity to make decisions, autonomy is related to our ability to act on a decision . Sometimes there is nothing more frustrating than having the plan laid out before us, and then lacking the initiative to proceed. Perhaps we’re giving into a limiting story we’re telling ourselves about why we can’t act, or that we’re not worthy of a possible result. Perhaps we’re in an environment that isn’t conducive to us achieving the goals we should be able to reach. Discerning the difference between internal and external blocks is key to understanding how to overcome these challenges; and we often need an outside, neutral perspective to help us do so. This applies to our ethical lives as well. Perhaps we have a desire to live by a certain code of ethics, or somehow enrich or live a more spiritual life; or we’ve let go of a religious perspective and are ready to engage in a more secular set of ethics. Perhaps we just wish to live by a higher standard and just be a better person , but can’t quite seem to integrate the philosophical frameworks into a practical, liveable philosophy. The greatest philosophers often outline some lofty ethical standards, but rarely give us practical ways to actually achieve those higher ethical or spiritual goals. Whether it’s a specific plan or goal, or trying to live a better ethical life, fostering a deeper sense of autonomy can help us identify the greater purpose to our lives, aside from simply “getting by” or just “surviving.” Working with a philosophical counselor from a safe and objective space, without judgement, and help us assess the range and scope of our personal autonomy, identifying the factors that may be impeding our ability to follow through on decisions that we know will benefit us. We all deserve to live our lives with a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Philosophical counseling can help provide a framework for success.
If you’ve ever heard yourself saying that you “don’t want to adult” today, or that “adulting is hard,” chances are you’re feeling a lack of agency . That feeling goes hand-in-hand with the paralysis of decision fatigue that arises when we need to make multiple decisions throughout our day, and feel that we neither feel empowered nor have the energy to do so. It’s also one of the most common issues that philosophical counseling can effectively address. Most people think that decision fatigue only comes into play when we’ve had to make big, monumental decisions. While that can be true, most of the time our decision fatigue is instigated by the vast array of small, inconsequential decisions we’re forced to make every day without even realizing it. Did you know that simply reading through a web page with hyperlinks, or scrolling through your social media feeds, involves dozens – if not hundreds – of individual choices? Clicking or not clicking on a link is a choice, as is each swipe of our finger over our screens.Think of all the links you’re exposed to in just a few minutes of scrolling and add to that the usual choices we have to make on any given day: No wonder we feel paralyzedI It can also lead us to feeling as if we’re somehow being pulled along by factors outside of our locus of control. If we’re always feeling reactive rather than proactive, it’s a sign that our energy is going to the wrong places, and that we may need to reevaluate who – or what – exactly is steering our ship. It’s almost as if our lives become one giant doom scroll, or treadmill, from which we can’t escape. Unfortunately, centuries of Western philosophy espousing the importance of “free will” – and how a perceived lack of will is akin to some kind of weakness or moral shortcoming – can exacerbate this feeling. While Descartes, Kant, or even Nietzsche or Sartre have much to say about the valor and empowerment of free will, none of them had to deal with endless news cycles, social media, or the constant availability of information. Just as the human brain is not structured to handle the 24 hours news cycle; enlightenment and existential structures of philosophy as they were written are not structured to handle a technologically-curated contemporary life. Philosophical counseling provides a way to bridge that gap and hel[p us identify exactly how and why we feel a lack of agency, and provides a neutral space in which a client can identify the places where their energy is going, and create potential strategies for rest, recuperation, and making empowered, informed decisions.
As I continue to develop my philosophical counseling practice, I have been receiving a lot of questions regarding the difference between philosophical counseling and therapy. The two definitely overlap and often intertwine, but there are specific differences between them. Each wants clients to come away from therapy or counseling as a better person, on more solid footing, with better coping skills and the capacity for self-care and self-realization. Where the emphasis is different however, is in the underlying purpose or mechanism of each. Therapy, at its core, is concerned with mental health, the treatment of underlying traumas, and a reduction of symptoms caused by some past trauma or some underlying psychopathology. It concerns itself largely with emotional regulation. Therapy, in its more basic form, assumes that there is some kind of pathology at work — which can have its roots in a past traumatic event or in some physiological psychopathology which can be regulated or managed via psychopharmacology or any one of a number of cognitive or narrative therapies. Therapy works through the emotional and cognitive dimensions of traumas and psychopathologies, with an emphasis on emotional behaviors and narratives.